Does happiness depend on things?

By
awarenessnow
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The common idea we all seem to have is that “something” or “someone” outside of us can make us happy. So, when we feel we need some more happiness or when we feel depressed perhaps, we typically look for something to make us feel happy again.

But is that how happiness truly works? Could it be we are making an essential error here?

The consumerism based world order cries out to us that we need to get more things or work more on our ego, in order to be or stay happy. We are bombarded with this idea so frequently that most of us actually believe it. One could even call it a belief-system, but what if that belief is completely wrong?

Isn’t it true that happiness does not depend on external objects or even other people, but rather, it depends on YOU or put differently, your “state of being”? Happiness is not a thing, but a state you’re in. When you are happy you experience the world as happiness. In that state even the smallest event like a raindrop of water falling on your nose from a tree, is a delight! You don’t need to buy a new house, a new car or win the lottery in order to be happy. Intuitively we all deep down know that external objects don’t actually make us happy. Perhaps they do facilitate our lives, make things easier, but surely lasting happiness does not depend on them. If we believe that it does, we have found the recipe for un-happiness, for suffering even.

So how to “get” happiness then? We suggest that it begins by dropping your belief that happiness depends on external objects and by becoming more aware of your state of being. This would be an excellent starting point for inner growth!

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  1. I wrote this to my brother yesterday who is unhappy and very much into making money and having expensive things. “I’ve realized the nature of true happiness. Happiness doesn’t come from anything. Nothing truly makes anyone happy. Happiness is a natural state of well being in the mind when nothing blocks it. Usually what blocks it is placing importance on things that we think will make us happy. Our beliefs in importance of certain things causes unhappiness. With the exception of loved ones, nothing should be more important than happiness and it only arises when it isn’t dependent on anything outside of ourself or even with ourself. Nothing can make us happy except giving up the importance of things that block happiness. So many people are looking for happiness in money, possessions, achievements, status, recreation, love, etc. and nothing outside of ourselves can bring true genuine happiness. Any happiness from those things will be temporary and eventually will lead to blocking happiness if they are believed to be needed for happiness. Happiness comes naturally when it is allowed to.”

  2. Happiness comes from emotionally-fulfilling experiences, which leads to contentment and peace with what one presently has.
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  3. This is all correct. Happiness is a state of being. It can be flickered on and off like a light switch. People need to realize this because the way life works is that “a happy mind creates a happy life” (not the other way around). Happiness is NOT dependent on external factors but external factors help. In particular, society can boost happiness across the planet if it creates an environment where people can experience 3 things:
    – Self-perpetuation
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    What is happening on the inside determines what is happening on the outside. If someone suddenly decides to remain happy most of the time then, over a couple of months, life will reconstruct itself to match the happiness within and mirror it without. This way, people have complete control over their lives. If someone decides to be pessimistic, then the world will become a pessimistic environment to match what’s happening on their inside.
    Happiness is our function but there are so many errors people make that really screw up happiness. Listening to the ego is one of the worst things but there are other things too. (Ie Fear, Guilt, anxiety, ect..)

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